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Post by Scratchpost on Mar 17, 2024 6:16:09 GMT -7
Hi everyone,
My grandfather died about two weeks ago, and Aka really liked him.
He was one of the only people Aka spoke to directly other than my husband and I and he also let my grandfather scratch him which was a big thing.
He was very quiet during the slideshow of my grandfather's life (which is another big thing because he speaks all the time lol). He looked for my grandfather after the slide show and looked at my grandfather's door when we walked passed it.
Should I take him into my grandfather's flat to show him that my grandfather isn't there anymore or should I leave it?
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Post by Jane on Mar 17, 2024 6:41:17 GMT -7
I am sorry to hear that.
Yes parrots do grieve, they will ask for the person and look for them. Sometimes they get so upset that they start to pluck or exhibit other behaviours.
I wouldn't take Aka to your grandfather's flat, I don't think he would necessarily understand the connection about the flat being empty and the fact that he won't see your grandfather again and I think it might upset him.
Jane
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Post by Haz on Mar 18, 2024 8:32:42 GMT -7
I am sorry for your loss.
Depending on how close Aka was to your grandfather, he could grieve for a long time. My husband died at the end of July, 2022. Chy still asks for him and keeps saying, "My daddy's gone". I found her in the ground floor bathroom and asked what she was doing in there. She replied that she was looking for daddy.
I would not take Aka to your grandfather's flat. He probably wouldn't make the connection.
Haz
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Post by Scratchpost on Mar 23, 2024 6:44:36 GMT -7
Sorry for the late reply. I spent the week with my family and didn't really have any time to myself.
Hi Jane,
Thank you.
I didn't think about the plucking, I will keep an eye on that but it's difficult at the moment because he's still busy with his baby moult. He's nearly finished with that though.
That's true about the flat, some of the stuff is still there but other things like paintings and stuff are gone.
Hi Haz,
Thank you.
He was pretty close so I'll have to se how behaves. That's so sad, I'm sorry. I'll keep him away from the flat then, I don't want him to get confused.
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Post by Adele on Mar 23, 2024 12:33:33 GMT -7
I used to go to Brazil for research, leaving for two stints, 6 months each. Manzi was my only parrot at the time, and it was really hard for him, but he got over it each time. It took at least two weeks after me leaving for him to stop being so sad. The first trip, I did a video call to see him after a couple weeks, but then the couple taking care of him said that he flew around their house looking for me and wouldn't eat for another two days cause it brought back all the upset. So after that, I never did any video/voice calls if they were home and he had a chance to hear me.
I don't think they understand long term temporary vs permanent loss and it is probably best to not bring them any hope that one of their favorite people might still be around.
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Post by Scratchpost on Apr 11, 2024 2:52:28 GMT -7
Hi Adele,
Oh that's so cool. Where in Brazil did you go? What research did/do you do?
Yeah my husband would call me when I was in Germany last year but Aka go confused because he heard my voice but didn't understand why he couldn't see me so we stopped.
That is true. My grandfather's flat is going to be rented out soon so we won't be able to go back anyway. It's probably for the best.
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